We are often told to “just forgive and move on” or “you need to forgive in order to be healed” or something like that. However forgiveness is not an event or a statement you make or something you just do.  Neither is it putting a cover over the pain and acting like it never happened. …

Prominent writers like Shore, Vander Kolk, Vander Hart and Ducey tell us that all of our experiences from the very beginning effect the way we behave in later life.  Memories of our early life experiences get stored in the developing memory system in our brain and control what we do later in life. Shore says,…

We often hear people talk about boundaries and having good boundaries. However in this age of entitlement boundaries have come to represent a demand by someone to get their own way or to have control over others, rather than a way of being safe in relationships. Henry Cloud wrote a very good book called`Changes that…

Finding the right person to help you with whatever is concerning you is not easy.  They are many different types of people doing this work and they all work differently.The key is not so much what they do but if you feel comfortable with them. This is not to say that what they do is…